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Ep. 256 Fawning: Are You Abandoning Yourself to Keep Others Happy?

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Calling all people pleasers! Today on the pod, Katie discusses fawning, a lesser-known nervous system response that can leave us prioritizing everyone else’s needs at the expense of our own authenticity. Learn how to recognize fawning within yourself, unravel your people-pleasing patterns, and begin becoming the loving, supportive presence you needed as a child.

Are you ready to embark on a year of deep, nervous system-informed Ayurveda study? Join us for the next cohort of our Ayurveda School, beginning January 20th, 2027. Click here to learn more and secure your early-bird tuition discount today!

In this episode about fawning, you’ll hear:

~ How fawning shapes our relationships

~ People-pleasing as a strategy for feeling safe, loved and connected

~ How to recognise if you’re in a fawning state

~ Identifying childhood patterns that influence your relationships and identity

~ The difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing

~ Reconnecting with your body’s wisdom

~ Becoming the person you needed as a child

~ Why setting healthy boundaries is often uncomfortable

~ An invitation to try Katie’s 24-hour fawning fast!

~ Staying true to yourself

~ Learn more about how to regulate your nervous system today! Watch the replay of our Somatic Ayurveda Workshop here.

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Check out these related episodes to learn more about fawning and your nervous system:

~ Ep. 253 The #1 Sign of Nervous System Healing + 9 More 

~ Ep. 226 The Night My House Burned & What Truly Saved Me

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