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Ep. 210 The Drama Triangle: Why it’s Wrecking Your Relationships and How to End It

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Do you want to create more healthy relationships with your partner, family, co-workers and friends? In today’s episode, Katie shares a powerful framework for understanding your patterns in relationships, the Drama Triangle. It’s time to shine a light on the unconscious patterns that are sabotaging your relationships so you can get out of the Drama Triangle!

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In this episode about the Drama Triangle, you’ll hear:

~ An invitation to study with us in Ayurveda School!

~ What is the Drama Triangle?

~ Psychiatrist Stephen Karpman

~ Are there really so many narcissists?

~ The danger of labeling and “othering” people

~ Dissolving the labels you’ve given yourself

~ Characteristics of our inner victim, perpetrator and rescuer

~ Carl Jung's theory of projection

~ How to identify when you’re projecting

~ The Vedic concept of Samsara

~ How to recognise when you’re playing the victim, perpetrator or rescuer in your relationship

~ Examples of common dysfunctional relationship patterns

~ How to break free from the Drama Triangle

~ The Jungian concept of self-integration

~ How to develop more mature, healthy relationships

~ Awareness as a digestive enzyme

~ Taking radical responsibility for our feelings

~ Get our free mini-course about Women’s Wisdom and Ayurveda for Women!

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

~ 2025 Chakra Yoga Nidra Workshop: Study with Katie and other luminary teachers this fall in the Bahamas!

~ 2026 Chakra Yoga Nidra Retreat: Deep dive into the chakras with Katie as your guide in the beautiful Bahamas in spring 2026!

~ Sign up for our newsletter on our website

~ Follow us on Instagram and Facebook

~ Katie’s latest book, Glow-Worthy

Episodes related to the Drama Triangle:

~ Ep. 178 Boundaries

~ Ep. 198 Family Archetypes: Understanding the Thanksgiving Dinner Table Dynamics

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PITTA-SOOTHING ROSEWATER MOCKTAIL 🌹💦🥒 Thi PITTA-SOOTHING ROSEWATER MOCKTAIL 🌹💦🥒 This goddess-worthy mocktail is perfect for when you want to sip something that cools your pitta but still satisfies your senses.

These key ingredients help soothe inner heat:

🥀 Rosewater is mildly astringent which gives it a cooling property both topically and internally. It’s great for balancing excess heat in the digestive system, helping to aid digestive discomfort, bloating and heartburn. Plus there’s nothing more nourishing to the heart center than rose!

🍋 If you’re not-so-new to Ayurveda you’ll know that warm lemon water is a key part of a traditional Ayurvedic morning routine. This is because lemon has a powerful agni boosting effect. Lemon gives our stomach the signal to start creating digestive juices and tells our liver to produce bile, both of which can help ease indigestion. 

🍁 Maple syrup encompasses the “sweet” quality in Ayurveda (plus, it’s derived from SAP - ojas, anyone?). The sweet taste soothes pitta and vata but can be a little aggravating to kapha, so consider substituting raw honey if you’re dealing with a kapha imbalance.

Ingredients (makes one serving - double or triple the recipe to share with friends):

• 2T rosewater
• Juice from 1/2 lemon
• 1T good quality maple syrup
• 1 cup plain seltzer (or lightly chilled hibiscus infusion)
• Optional garnish: cucumber, mint, orange, strawberries, etc.!

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3. Add juice from 1/2 lemon.

4. Add 1 tbsp good quality maple syrup. Stir ingredients to combine.

5. Top with 1 cup plain seltzer (or alternatively a chilled hibiscus infusion if you want to avoid seltzer!)

Garnish with a few cucumber slices, mint leaves or orange slices! 🍓

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