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How to Find Purpose In Your Life

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For More Joy + Fulfillment

How to Find Purpose

We often go through life fishing, only to realize it’s not fish we were after.

-Thoreau

The Buddha said that the whole world lives on the tip of intention. How aware are you of your intention? At the end of it all the outer world fades and we are only left with our inner world. How is your inner world serving you? What is the intention that is driving your daily habits? Are you living from your heart’s deepest aspirations? Or, are you living from a place of fear, worry, or regret? If we want to live a life of true purpose, to feel freedom, and flow with the natural rhythms of this world, it is absolutely essential that we start being intentional with how we shape our daily life. It is only when we are fulfilling our heart’s deepest longings that we will feel free.

So, how do we become free? 

It starts with thought. Many of the great ancient teachings (including the Upanishads) highlight the importance of your thoughts, and more specifically, watching your thoughts. Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. Therefore, it is your thoughts that determines your destiny. Again: Your thoughts determine your destiny, your freedom, and your purpose.

As we go through life, slowly we start forgetting why we are here. Our purpose fades away and it is in the forgetting that we suffer. Studies on the world’s blue zones (regions of the world where it is claimed that a higher than usual number of people live much longer than average) have shown that waking up with purpose can extend your life up to seven years! In a world where distractions are easy and at an all-time high, it is becoming increasingly difficult to hold onto the soul’s purpose and so we naturally forget. The ancient teachings say that this is the human condition. We don’t examine our life, we forget what our gifts are and how to use them. The Buddha said that everyone is gifted, but most people never open their gift. This life is precious. Your gifts are precious. Don’t waste another minute of your life not opening your gift.

How do you discover (or rediscover) what the heart truly wants? 

I will admit, relearning how to follow the heart and rediscover your spiritual purpose is not easy, but as an essential ingredient to the success and happiness of your life, it is worth the sometimes difficult start. And that start happens the minute you open your eyes every morning. Setting aside time for spiritual discovery can quickly get moved to the backburner, especially when your task plate is already so full, but it’s important that you do not sacrifice short term gain for the longer vision of who you want to be.

Steps for Uncovering the Soul’s Purpose: 

Meditation

Reclaim the Mental Narrative. What makes up your daily mental narrative? Are you having trouble getting out of a toxic mindset (a spiral of negative mind chatter)? This is an indicator that you are not living in alignment with your soul’s purpose. Find a meditation practice that works for you and stick to it. Whether it is 5 minutes, 10 minutes, or 30 minutes, set aside the same time every day for intentional stillness and contemplation. Essential soul time.

Daily Prayer or Affirmations

Proverbs 23:7 says, As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. Another powerful way to shift the mental narrative is to actually start retraining the brain for what you want. This can be achieved through daily thanksgiving, prayer, or self proclaimed affirmations that are in alignment with what you want more of. Include this in your daily essential soul time.

Invest In Your health

What are you doing to sustain your own physical health? And are you taking mental stock of that? It doesn’t have to be a new strict diet plan that you follow, but simply begin to notice what you put into your body and how it makes you feel. The physical and mental bodies are intricately connected. Nurture your body, give yourself permission to feel pleasure from food, and stay connected to the wisdom of the body that knows what and how much of something it truly needs. If the mind is chaotic, make your plate simple.

Writing Exercises

Free form writing can be extremely beneficial when it comes to making space in the mind. Working with certain prompts can help answer some heavy hearted questions. Here are some examples to get you going that are specifically designed to target your soul’s purpose:

  • What did you want to do when you were a little kid? 
  • What is the core part of you that you want folks to talk about at your funeral?
  • What gets you completely in the flow or in the zone? 
  • What naturally comes easy to you? 
  • What do you fear most when it comes to internal growth?
  • What is essential to your long term health? Your success?
  • What is meaningful to you? How do you feed your soul? 

Try following up your meditation with this writing exercise and I am positive that you will uncover some answers.

Learn and Explore 

For some people, there can be immense spiritual value in exploration and learning something new. If you find yourself in an unshakable funk, try visiting somewhere new. I know we are currently living through a pandemic, but it doesn’t have to be a faraway land. Even going on a drive to a different neighborhood, or a nearby town and walking around can help shift the inner workings of the brain. When we see things for the first time our creativity is stimulated, our dopamine increases, and our soul can get a little wake up call. Or, sign up for a class! There are so many virtual offerings available these days and learning can be a powerful tool to stimulate the mind and reinvigorate the heart. Our Ayurveda Program is the fast track to finding inner wisdom and purpose: More on that here.

Find Your Supporters

Who are your strong supporters? Your spiritual cheerleaders? Lean into the people that help lift you up. Community helps build spiritual resilience. Find the people you trust the most and work together to encourage and uplift one another. You do not have to be alone on this journey.

Remember, this is a journey. Be gentle with yourself. Learn how to trust your instincts and be willing to invest in yourself. Caring for your soul is one of the most important jobs you have in this lifetime. And, once you rediscover your soul’s purpose, the job then becomes how to share your unique skills with others. As your skills become a service to your community, it will inspire others to do this very necessary soul work.  The work that leads to more joy, more openness, and more fulfillment in life.

Two books to take you deeper down this journey of self-discovery and purpose:

  1. From a more Western tradition: Designing Your Life
  2. From a more Eastern tradition: The Four Desires

And if you want to spend a WHOLE YEAR learning about yourself and potentially launch a new career, join us in Ayurveda School. We start in January!

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Pleasure is how the feminine restores, regulates and returns to wholeness. When pleasure is suppressed, imbalance ripples outward.⁠
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The post-holidays can be a season of both connection and grief. In February, we’re calling in deep, soulful, love. And real love starts with a connection to your very own heart.

This absolutely goddess-worthy elixir features skullcap, damiana and rose to gently open the subtle heart center and get you through waves of beauty, bliss and everything in-between.

🌹Skullcap: Think soothing, stress relief and relaxation. This nervine is an emotional balance supporter and helps restore the functioning of the nervous system.

🌹Damiana: This aphrodisiac helper pairs well with skullcap for relaxation while also giving a little boost to mood and digestion.
 
🌹Rose: Associated with the heart chakra, rose is said to help heal a broken heart and enhance feelings of self-love and emotional balance.

Here’s how to make the elixir:

~ 1/4 cup dried skullcap
~ 1/4 cup dried damiana
~ 1/4 cup dried rose petal
~ A few cinnamon sticks
~ 1 T gently crushed cardamom pods
~ 1 T gently crushed star anise
~ 1 T gently crushed cloves
~ An orange peel
~ 1/2 cup honey
~ Brandy to cover 

Add all ingredients to a clean mason jar. Cover completely with brandy (push down everything in the jar so that it’s below the liquid). Place a piece of parchment paper between the lid and the jar to prevent any transfer from the lid or vice versa. Shake daily, storing in a cool place for about a month.

Enjoy in small servings as a healing tonic for your heart. ❤️🍯 

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February is a threshold month in Ayurveda (in the February is a threshold month in Ayurveda (in the Northern Hemisphere). We’re still carrying winter’s cold, heavy and vata-provoking qualities, especially if you’re vata-dominant or living in a colder climate, but the body also starts asking for a little bit of clearing as kapha slowly begins to rise. 

It’s time for bitter + warming foods: cleansing without shocking the system. Think warm, cooked, spiced, and slightly bitter.

If you’re in the Southern Hemisphere you’re going to want to follow the “summer” guidelines – check out our blog for tons of resources to support you!

February recommendations:

🌶️ Cayenne: Hot and stimulating; wakes up sluggish digestion and helps mobilize stagnant kapha
🥬 Kale: Bitter and mineral-rich; supports gentle detox, grounding when cooked
🤎 Cumin: Warming and digestive, strengthens digestion and improves nutrient assimilation
🌿 Fenugreek: Warming, bitter and drying - perfect for winter kapha–balancing
💛 Turmeric: Heating, supporting cleansing pathways and immune health
🥣 Buckwheat: Warming and drying; balances kapha while still nourishing in cold weather
🥬 Collard Greens: Bitter, earthy and grounding; excellent for late-winter liver support
🧄 Garlic: Hot, pungent and antimicrobial; clears mucus and boosts circulation
🌾 Rye: Drying and grounding; helpful as winter heaviness begins to lift
🫜 Beets: Sweet and bitter, natural coagulant supporting blood and liver cleansing
🍋 Lemon Juice: A squeeze of lemon adds the sour taste to heavier foods
🫚 Ginger: Warming and activating; kindles agni and keeps vata steady
🍠 Sweet Potato: Sweet and grounding; stabilizes vata while transitioning seasons
🍫 Dark Chocolate: Bitter and warming in moderation; supports mood and circulation
🥬 Chard: Bitter and mineral-rich; aids gentle detox without excess cold
🫘 Chickpeas: Drying and protein-rich; balances kapha when well-spiced and cooked
🥦 Broccoli: Bitter and light; supports liver and lymphatic cleansing
🍚 Kitchari: Warm, spiced and balancing; ideal for gentle February resets
🫜 Turnips: Light, bitter and warming

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Healing isn’t a one-and-done conversation where you say the right thing and suddenly your inner child doesn’t have trust or abandonment issues anymore (wouldn’t that be nice!? 💔🔥)  

Healing is a relationship.

It’s about slowly (sometimes awkwardly 😉) and lovingly, befriending the parts of you that were ignored, rushed, shamed or quietly kicked out of your own heart.

The tender parts of you don’t open because you said something “right.”

They open because you stayed.

Because you didn’t leave when it felt uncomfortable, even though that first conversation may have felt a little cringe ;) Drop me a line below if you know exactly what I’m talking about. 🫀❤️‍🔥🦋💫

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